8 things no one tells you about your wedding day!

  1. The exhaustion, the physical aches and pains. I’m guessing you probably haven’t ever worn such a big and heavy dress for such a long time. Its tiring. Your meandering around all day, mostly standing and its tiring, the day after and the day after that, I ached.
  2. The emotional exhaustion. Having so many people who love you, showing they love you in one place is a lot emotionally and can really take it out of you. I had the added emotions of it being the last time I was seeing my best friend who lives in Florida before she flew home and not knowing when I was seeing her next. Emotional is an understatement for our goodbye!Image may contain: one or more people, car and outdoor
  3. It goes in a flash! I know people tell you this but I was amazed at how fast the actual ceremony went, I would have like it to be three times longer which is something as a wedding guest I didn’t think I would ever say.
  4. The power of a white dress, I had folks dancing who would never have danced in a month of Sundays regularly but no one says no to a lady in white! frances-alex-wedding-803
  5. Something changes. We both said that after we had said I will (in the Church of England service it’s not I do its I will) we felt different and I really truly didn’t expect that.
  6. Confetti is really annoying. I emptied a tonne from my dress, my husband changed his shirt because it was full and the getaway car was filled by a very mischievous uncle! We are still finding it and it’s a lovely reminder of our day.
  7. People will be amazingly generous even if you ask them not to be. We had a no gift list because we a. don’t need anything b. wanted to make our wedding as accessible to our friends as possible and didn’t want to give them the added burden of a obligated gift from a list. Despite this we got given a lot of cash (that we are using with our date night jar from the guest book) to fund our year of fun times and dates.
  8. You need to speak up during your vows. During the rehearsal my mum did tell me this and gosh she was right. It feels like a very personal intimate moment which it is but you have invited these people to witness it with you so speak up even the people in the cheap seats want to hear!frances-alex-wedding-273

What did you not know before your big day?


Bridal Body Prep

Lets be clear this is not about loosing weight, about becoming a ‘new you’ or about what anyone else thinks.

This is about being the best of you, your spouse marrying you for you and about feeling fabulous.

Ok i’m done with the rant! So what did I do to prep for our wedding day, nothing revolutionary and nothing crazy lets hit it!

For my Body
Water, so much water in the weeks leading up. I bought a beast insulated flask a couple of months before and just touted it everywhere with me filled with iced water. Hydrated skin is happy skin!


I also started a month before sugar scrubbing about twice a week. I probably should have always been doing this to remove dead skin cells and give your self a glow but it’s an easy step to drop from your shower routine when you could trade it in for extra time in bed! I have been continuing this after and it’s keeping my skin smooth and silky! I am currently using a bath and body works scrub I have had hoarded but there are loads of great affordable options. The next unnecessary shower step that I started and have continued is an in shower body moisturiser. I wouldn’t get out of the shower without conditioning my hair so why not condition my body? Doing it in the shower is way easier and quicker than moisturising outside of the shower. I use the sanctuary in shower body moisturiser and it’s the bomb.

I was also really careful in the sun, I always wear facial SPF but knowing the cut of my dress I didn’t want any mental tan lines all across our wedding photos so was really mindful whenever I was in the sun to either remove straps or cover right up!


And finally for the body don’t forget your feet! It’s a long day and however comfortable your shoes are they won’t be at the end of the night and your feet will be telling you about it. I have a kind gross but amazing gadget called a pedi egg that essentially cheese grates your feet. Yes gross. Yes v effective. Follow it up with a pepperminty foot cream and its a dream. For an added treat and the night before the wedding (in preparation) I used a foot mask to give my little piggies the most papering possible.

Ok onto that beautiful face of yours!

I have developed quite a rigorous facial skin care routine and it has just made my skin look better. Once you start seeing the difference I have found it easy to stick to it! So I adore a mask, I use your good skin mask in the shower (it only needs 5mins to work) which means it is mess free, a bonus or I use moisture bomb tissue mask between showering and getting dressed. I also use the your good skin cleanser, the dairy moisturiser (which has a great SPF) and the serum. The serum is a game changer, I swear it makes me look less tired and is basically a magic gel! I also love the pixi glow tonic (original I know) which I used after cleansing before adding a cream or serum. And my final skin care but really self love item is a jade roller, does it really do anything, Young House Love thinks so and if it’s good enough for Sherry! It feels amazing on my face and does have a instant de-puffing effect especially on those days I have achy tired eyes!


These are the things that I do for my face and body that make me feel great, what do you do to feel fantastic?


Engagement Shoots Rock!

No really they do. Our wedding photography package came with an engagement (she calls them pre-wedding) shoot. This was one of the big things that I had been looking for in a Wedding photographer and i’m here to tell you why!

  1. You and your photographer can get used to each other before your wedding day. And not just in a cup of coffee and chin wag way (although that is great because they are going to be following you around all day!) In a professional sense, what are they telling you to do, how you and your partner naturally interact. This gives you both some practice at working with each other to get the best wedding pictures possible.frances-alex-kelmarsh-hall-19
  2. You get your pictures back before the wedding and you can see what you look like! How often do you have pictures taken? We really don’t, ever, and getting some images back allowed us both to have an ick i’m never doing that with my face/body/arm again moments! It also shows you what works for your body and what doesn’t.frances-alex-kelmarsh-hall-59
  3. You get a heck tonne extra pictures of just the two of you in a pretty low key environment just being yourselves. You could use these for your invites (I have a friend who did this and they were lovely), use them for home decor or use them for wedding decor like we did. wedding-photos.jpg


Have I convinced you or am I preaching to the choir! Did you have engagement photos?


Top Tips for DIY Wedding Bar

Lets heads up by saying that I know that this isn’t for everyone so I will start with our pro con list.

1. It was hard work setting it up, we used costco and two different supermarkets which took time (and petrol) to get to and energy to lug the drinks about, from cart into car, car into house, move about house a bit, house into car, into venue. You get the idea. Perfect if you have people who love you who you want to love you a little less when the wedding is over!
2. And on that note, you will need help so it does mean asking more favours of probably the same group of people who you have already exploited quite a lot (i’m looking at you Mum!)
3. And finally you have to store it at home. In a fairy normal English house this can be quite a challenge and I was delirious with happiness when we could use our patio doors again because they weren’t being blocked by booze mountain!


yes this all (except the nappies) ended up in my house!

So onto the Pros:
1. Hiring it out is EXPENSIVE. Not just for you but for your guests too. We wanted to make sure everyone could have a good time and not worry. And for us and our family and friends that meant be able to freely have a drink. We have friends and family in all different stages of life and financial situations and we wanted to make sure everyone could enjoy our day without having that nagging can I afford this £10 G&T in the back of their mind!
2. We were also aware than any leftovers could come back to our house or be a fun perk for those wonderful people who did our clearing up! It’s nice to have a stack of fun drinks to dip into and makes entertaining post wedding feel like a breeze, it’s the gift to ourselves that just jeeps on giving!
3. It meant we could completely customise what we were serving and make sure our guests had what we knew they would like. I got to indulge making some flavoured gins which were a nice personal touch.
4. And for us it really reinforced the informal feeling we were shooting for in all of our wedding, everyone helped each other and it generally made people chat more than they would have otherwise.


This is what we decided to stock and we had ample leftovers. This may have been in part due to the day (34degrees is really hot in the UK) which meant that less spirits were drunk than if it had been a little cooler than the fires of hades!

24x Red wine
24x Rose win (we decided against white as neither of us like it and felt we had enough selection!)
30x Bubbles (some pink and some champagne, for toasts and because I do love a glass of bubbles!)
2x Hendricks gin
2x flavoured homemade gin
1x Jack Daniels honey whisky
1x Malibu (for one specific friend!)
1x absolute vodka
72x can IPA
100x corona
250x bottled still water
150x bottled sparking water
500x canned soft drinks
Different fruit squashes and elderflower cordial plus orange juice as we had children at our wedding.

We also provided welcome drinks, a pink juice and a pimms to roll along with doughnuts and pasties.


We had LOTS but all of the still waters and most of the soft drinks got drunk. No one touched the spirits (except homemade variants thankyouverymuch!) but again I would put that more down to the weather than the crowd!

Some things you will need for your bar that could be easy to forget, napkins for those little spills, straws (paper because millennial!), bottle openers and corkscrews (have more than one because loosing or breaking one would be a disaster!) and some emergency plastic cups, for later in the evening when you can’t find a cup!

We also bought pouring measures for the spirits from amazon to prevent anyone getting crazy with the free pour (you know we have all done that at a party) and that’s when things can get funky!


This isn’t for everyone but having a DIY bar was fun for us and hopefully with these tips it could be fun for you too! What would you have on your DIY bar?